Fred said:It seems very easy to me to distinguish between those people who have a good sense of humour & those who seem a little challenged in that department
Fred said:i) with the brass band fraternity being such a small family, relatively speaking, I think we're better off all being in the same place & working towards continually developing this fine forum, so that we all feel comfortable to express ourselves & that tmp caters for everyone, irrespective of their sense of humour/lack of it, intellect/lack of it, musical ability/lack of it etc - at this stage, flattering as your suggestion may be for me to start a new forum, I think it's a little early in my career just yet
ii) I didn't say that anything was broken or needed fixing, simply that my initial experience at being moderated seemed a bit over sensitive & that it made me wonder if there might be any merit in including a place here for people of a similar mind - which judging by the responses, there certainly could be
iii) again, at no stage did I even remotely suggest changing to a warts & all forum - I actually said, keep it the way it is - ie 'moderated & with impeccable tmp standards' - but how about including a place somewhere on here designed for people not quite as over sensitive as others - which the sensistive types could simply ignore
iv) for anyone a bit slow on the uptake, who couldn't tell from just the one post that I wasn't trying to cause trouble, but attempting to offer a reasoned & well thought through perspective - don't worry about it or be too hard on yourself - take pride in the fact the both of your moderators who responded, did so in the same reasoned & well thought out manner
iv) I wasn't asking anyone to pander to anything,
just simply providing feedback & trying to offer a suggestion which would augment the great stuff already being done on here - which is my understanding of what John & his fine team are looking for & actually encourage
And finally, for those of you that do suffer with a tumour in your humour (it's simply a phrase from a Robbie Wiiliams song, before anyone gets offended by the word humour) - you have my greatest sympathy
Lauradoll said:I'm just saying that when you're trying to have a laugh it's frowned upon by people who can't take a joke. Not trying to be rude or antagonistic from the safely of my computer. :shock:
Dave Payn said:I didn't say YOU were! ;-) Most of the wind up merchants that have invaded this forum have gone anyway. There's no one I can think of who contributes regularly now who gets my goat. (I have no goat to give away.... )
geordiecolin said:Interesting thread this....
Firstly, I'll set out my position. I am not very easily offended, you can be as crass, blue or sick as you like and I'll probably find it amusing. However, I pride myself on the fact that in over 1000 posts, i think that less 5 have been modded and 1 of those was because i mentioned a test piece name by mistake...!!
When posting, i think it is important that people show restraint, there have many times when i've read a post and my sense of humour immediately kicks in with what i feel is a funny reply. Often though I have to sit down and think about what i actually want to type so that the meaning of the remark would remain, whilst the possibility of offence is minimised.
Lauradoll mentions "people not being a to take a joke" and this is, I feel the crux of the issue. What Lauradoll, Fred or myself might find amusing other people may simply not even realise is supposed to be amusing. ts less a case of "people not being able to take a joke", more a case of "people not realising that a joke has been made". This is no-ones fault, just a reality of online communication.
A "banter room" whilst an admirable idea in principle, is i feel, impractical and difficult to deliver and would occupy more of the mods time than it my deserve to the detriment of the rest the forum.
So, my lesson to everyone -
1) Be considerate - this works both ways, don't fly off the handle at the merest dig, chill and laugh it off. Equally don't antagonise people without need.....
2) Try very very very hard to spot intended jokes. Jokemakers, make use of this ------> :lol:
3) Think about what you post. Try and keep your post meaning in least misconstruable way.