You did indeed misunderstand my last sentence.I may have misunderstood your last sentence, but it seems to suggest that if I'm fearful of playing a solo / conducting, I'm not welcome in your band. Is that correct? And if I'm not fearful and instead, I've made the decision that I just don't want to play a solo, you'll assume it's because of fear and use amateur psychology to coach me over it?
If I was continuously encouraged (aka pestered, shamed for not) to play a solo or try conducting I'd become pretty annoyed over time and probably leave. I'm quite capable of deciding what I want out of banding / life without being questioned several times a year by someone that thinks they know better.
Encouragement does not mean pestering and shaming individuals.
As I said in my earlier post the thread is going nowhere useful so I’m going to step back from it. As they say ‘you can take a horse to water ..........’.
All the best, 2T.