Relocation, Relocation

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Chat' started by DaveR, Jun 28, 2007.

  1. DaveR

    DaveR Active Member

    No, not the TV programme.....

    Has anybody on here ever decided - more or less on a whim - to up-sticks and move somewhere else totally different? I know people move house regularly, but there is usually a reason - a new job in a different area, needing more space, etc.

    The reason I ask is because I'm thinking about doing this. I've lived in Reading since I came here to university in 1993. I've spent the last 11 years commuting either into London or Potters Bar. Over the last couple of years I've been suffering more and more from stress and panic attacks, and I'm convinced it is to do with the fact that everybody in the South East is stressed. Life is lived at 200 mph and it seems totally relentless. I live in a quiet cul-de-sac, but open my bedroom window at 2am on any morning of the week, and I can hear traffic, and sirens, trains, aircraft etc. There is never silence.

    I've made the decision that it's time to move. I've always loved the sea and the mountains (I grew up on a Welsh hillside!) and I've decided that I would like to move to North Wales - Angelsey or the Llyn Peninsula. I've never lived in either location, but I spent many childhood holidays on Anglesey, and my grandparents lived in Llyn. So I have very happy memories of both areas, but no real ties any more.

    So, what I am asking is basically has anybody on here moved to an area of the country / world where you have no tangible ties? Do you have any advice? Were there any pitfalls? Are you glad you did it? Would you recommend it? Or was it a case of the grass being greener and the worst thing you ever did?
  2. bigmamabadger

    bigmamabadger Active Member

    We upped sticks and moved to Austria, but that was a fixed term contract and we were much younger then. With no BabyBadger...
    Neither of us had ties with the North West when we first moved here 12 years ago, and we've never regretted it. I certainly would never go back anywhere near the South East. South East of Birmingham I start to hyperventilate.

    All I would say to be careful of, is that moving will not solve all or even any of your problems. If you hang your whole life on a move you could end up being very disappointed. Life still goes on elsewhere although it does it more slowly perhaps.
    So long as you're prepared to work at changing your lifestyle and don't expect to fit in instantly, or to drop with a sigh of relief into a cosy little niche you'll be fine. (I'm sure I'm preaching to the converted here, you've got a head on your shoulders, it's just that anyone can get carried away by happy little fantasies:wink: )
    Go for it. Loads of lovely bands in North Wales and just over the border, and tMP will always be here to listen to your problems.
  3. LeDragon

    LeDragon Active Member

    North Wales is the best place in the world! :tup

    Don't get me wrong, I like living in London (I moved there with a change of career), but it's no North Wales!
    Last edited: Jun 29, 2007
  4. Mrs Womble

    Mrs Womble Member

    I've done it loads of time
    i've lived in Nottingham & Dundee before moving back to my home city of Leicester. Then I met Cornishwomble and moved out to Gibraltar, Then we moved back to the Portsmouth becasue of work reasons.About 2 and a bit years ago we decided to move to Yorkshire so we did.

    Go for it is what I say. :clap: :clap:
  5. Rapier

    Rapier Supporting Member

    Just think about distances for visits etc and what hobbies you have that can still be done where you move to. I moved to the country from London area after 30 years there and the only regret is I wish there were more brass bands in the area we moved to. But apart from that, wish I'd done it years ago.
  6. David Mann

    David Mann Member

    We moved from Manchester to east Anglia with 3 under-5s and not knowing anyone outside work within 100 miles. We were able to plug into social networks (bands, playgroups) but it was still a dislocating experience. We found east Anglia too quiet and ended up in the midlands. We have cities when we want them (Coventry, Birmingham, Leicester) but we're minutes from the countryside.
  7. RussQ

    RussQ Member

    Leeds, Portsmouth, Selby, Southport, Pembrokeshire, Southport! Over the last 10 years!!
  8. HBB

    HBB Active Member

    Woo! Portsmouth Russ!! :)
  9. DaveR

    DaveR Active Member

    Thanks to everyone who has replied so far - some very interesting and useful comments. Keep 'em coming! :)
  10. I spent my 17th birthday on a coach going down to Portsmouth. From there, I lived in France for 2 years.

    I also decided, on a rather large drunken whim, to up sticks and live in Greece - I was in Malia, Crete for a couple of years.....

    The thing is, I didn't want to get into my 40's and regret not doing things when I had the chance.

    Andy, now living in Belfast.
  11. eanto

    eanto Member

    I say 'go for it!' DaveR. Change as good as a rest and all that. Long time dead. Any port in a storm........anyway........ my last 20 years in the Royal Air Force moved me around the country a lot and as a single entity, there was more pressure to 'fit in & socialise' in my new community. One thing was always constant thought; I quickly joined a local brass band. I've played in Bristol, North Norfolk, Nottingham, Lincoln, Oxford - and they all got rid of me!! Seriously though, brass band playing is a very portable hobby that gives you access to 24 friends immediately! Good luck with the move if that's what you want.
  12. The Blonde

    The Blonde Member

    Go for it!

    As a born and bred South Londoner I chose Exeter Uni for a complete change of scene - loved it. Got my 1st graduate job in London because I (niavely) thought it was " the place to be". How wrong I was - was thorougly fed up with commuting into London after only 2 years. Since then I've lived in:
    Milton Keynes
    Kendal (18 years in total)
    Market Harborough
    Kendal again
    Bishop Auckland (current)

    Happily settled in the north east but definitely would like to live by the sea one day - if the band manager agrees!

    It isn't easy settling in to a new place, especially if you have young kids and need to find babysitters etc. Teenagers provide their own challenges too. But I can honestly say that I have no regrets about any of my moves.

    best of luck
  13. honey bun

    honey bun Active Member

    Moved from Rochdale to Leigh then to Hastings (all with my dads job). Back to Rochdale then worked in Jersey and Germany for a bit.
    Never really liked Hastings so had opportunity to move to Northampton with my job. Did so without knowing anyone - as eanto says "joined local brass band" and been in this area ever since.
    Loved moving around when I was younger-bit more impulsive than when you get a bit older - I'd love to have the guts to do it now (on my own-children all grown up). Would love to move back up t' north.

    Any place is what you make it and how hard you work at it.

    I'd say go for it daveR - if you don't like it you can always go somewhere else.

    Good luck
  14. sparkling_quavers

    sparkling_quavers Active Member

    I lived in Notts till I went to Uni, then went to Sheffield, back to Notts and then Manchester. I have been here around 5 years. We are definately planning to move somewhere quieter eventually. It always seems to be near daylight here with the lights from the Trafford Centre on 24:7.
  15. Lauradoll

    Lauradoll Active Member

    I moved from a small village in Fife, Scotland, when I was 17 to go to university in Manchester and after 8 years there, (studying and working) I decided on a change of scenery and moved to Durham. It took a while (almost a year) to actually enjoy living here as most of my friends still lived in Manchester but can honestly say that I love living here and am so glad I did it and stuck at it- it was touch and go for a while, seriously considered moving back to Manchester but gave myself a year to settle in here first.
  16. on_castors

    on_castors Member

    I have the desire to do just this, every day of every week, having done the OPPOSITE & moving from an outer suburban area right into the heart of the rancid strangulated Midlands back in 1997 on the basis of a whim that seemed like a good idea then.

    Sadly because of ill health retirement, with a very restricted income now, added to the fact the price of more rural/outer suburban housing expanding faster than the universe just after the big bang; and being left with not even enough equity to go back to where I came from, it is just simply a dream.

    I must admit I do caution you on one thing, don't do a move JUST on the basis of holiday times there, especially if those holidays were as a kid - the places I love for a week or so relaxation are also an hour's drive from the nearest hospital, and a proper supermarket is a commute away too, meaning the commuting direction simply reverses: having to drive miles to have the convenience of shopping & services, with work being at home instead!
  17. WoodenFlugel

    WoodenFlugel Moderator Staff Member

    That reminds me of my Brother who moved to Paignton for work a few years ago. It wasn't long before he was moaning about the "****** toursts" who wrecked the road system in the summer, and of course the house prices were high - he basically lived on the side of a cliff for several years, before he could move to somewhere nearer the front to a bigger house on more sensible flatter land.

    After restoring his house and finally getting settled his company pulled the plug on the whole product he was involved in (anyone remember Ionica boxes? No, I thought not!) so he ended up moving back up to Leicestershire, and like me has the joy of a commute into horrible Coventry. We often wave to each other on the M69 before joining our respective traffic jams.

    The problem for him and me is that engineering doesn't do "nice towns". Unless you work for a F1 team, or a Pharmaceutical company, engineering is generally based in the grimyist, grottyist, concerete-laden places (like Coventry). So my notions of a working life by the sea are pretty unlikely. :(
  18. a very flat b

    a very flat b Member

    We upped and moved from Huddersfield to near the east coast 2 years ago. It was a life choice, I worked away and it really didn't matter where we lived, so we went where we wanted - in the countryside rather than the town.
    The down side has been the lack of bands, we have three competing bands EYMS who are out of my league, Cottingham and East Riding of Yorkshire. Compare this to Huddersfield where there was some 20 bands within 10 miles.

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