Regularly a player will be approached, move, and everyone is fine about it. My second post above lays out a means whereby you can take a situation that might be approached as (4) and push it as far along towards (3) as it will go. What I'm mostly saying is that it all requires very careful handling, and that if you're always aiming to minimise ill-feeling and stress... Well, that's a good idea for all concerned. Unless you have very strong reasons as a band to really not care about your reputation on the subject. Edit: We've talked about 'poaching' here before. While it's very true that "a happy player doesn't leave", there are more and less legitimate tactics to achieving that. A steady dose of flattery and poison poured into the ear will affect the happiness most any player feels in their current band. I think I supplied you with a detailed example of someone performing regular sharp practice on the subject at the time?