OK, this probably falls aunder a various assortment of banners that have popped up recently, so feel free to move it Mods, but I am curious how other people would handle this situation. As I've mentioned before, I have a rather small band, made up of mostly high school kids, in particular seniors. We are working for contest, and every so often we have a dud rehearsal because all of a sudden I have a bass section, 2 horns and 2 solo cornets all missing to do homework. I can deal with that. Part of our contests is the marching event. AS the band rehearses at NIGHT and most of the band members complained baout marching in the dark, the entire band nominated their own marching rehearsal time and selected Sunday mornings at 7 AM. There's daylight, and it's rather cool. It also allows you to go to church or work or whatever afterwards. However the problem is a lot of players don't turn up to these rehearsals, and most of them without apologising too. As a result, the drum major has had to work hard on organising positions and working out who is or isn't marching. We want to make a good effort, and also, with 20 players capable of marching, it makes it hard to get an even spread. As such the drum major decided we'd march with 3 ranks of 5, plus one of 3 for the percussion. 2 players would have to sit out, which works out great because we have 3 players who have dodgy attendances. However one is starting to pick his act up. Out of the other 2, one is a teenager, and the other a single parent taking his kids to contest. He appreciates being left out of the march (although is very apologetic at attendance). The drum major decided, to keep the teenager involved, he could march in front of the band with the banner. Tonight, at 9:00, I get a phonecall a phonecall from his mum, accusing me of punishing her boy with carrying the banner, and complaining that all the parents agree that the early morning rehearsals just aren't convenient. This mother I met for the first time, by the way, last night. Did we make a good decision keeping the boy involved? Is the mother whinging now because her boy has been singled out, or does he have a legitimate gripe??