Have you ever been told by someone that their first impression of you was totally different to the one they have of you once they got to know you? And I'm not just talking about the natural characteristics that you learn about someone with time. Is there an aura around people that they are unaware of or they are aware of but don't understand why they have it? When someone says to you "and to think I was scared of you when I first met you", it makes you wonder what 'aura' you are giving out to people! And it can be quite a shock to know that this is the view of lots of people when you have a totally different perception of yourself. It's also worrying when your professional life is about working with lots of different families in a supportive, caring, compassionate and understanding environment. The families that I work with, and there have been hundreds over the years have always been able to welcome me into their lives, to work with them and support them. Even the ones that I've ended up having to prosecute, have always agreed with the courts that I have been great and supportive and will continue to work with me. So what happens when I come home from work and hang up my coat? Perhaps I am overtaken by some mysterious force without my knowing it. :biggrin: Perhaps there is a 'force field' around me that says "approach at your own risk" :biggrin: Whatever it is, it's b****y annoying! Any ideas on how to cleanse? To remove this percieved 'auro' that people are seeing? Or should I in fact, celebrate? Celebrate what I hear you ask? "Celebrate the fact that I am a woman, with my own views on things, I'm not always a 'push-over', and that I am PASSIONATE about band, and woe betide anyone who tries to mess me around! You see, there's that monster again! Help me!