After talking a lot to family and friends who, like me, work full time, it has become apparent that, unlike them, I am looked upon as 'spoiled', 'have an easy life', 'don't know that I'm born'. And I have to admit, that compared to some of my female friends, it does look that way. But then I started to think about why. Yes I work full time, yes I have a husband, and yes, up until very recently I had 2 children living at home, now I only have 1. I sometimes do housework, if I'm honest, not very often as my husband does it. He also does most of the laundry (except ironing) and is the one that often clears away the pots after meals. He chooses to do all these things, I might add. With regards to the cleaning of the house, when I went back to full time work I informed him that I was not going to be spending all my free time cleaning and therefore I would get a cleaner in. His response to this was there was no need as he didn't mind doing it, actually quite enjoys it (so he says, I think it was the thought of spending money!) Taking my situation into account, one could argue that yes, equality in the home is here in the 21st Century......... Then why, might I ask, is it such a big thing that my husband chooses to do the housework and I don't? Why do family and friends find it 'strange' that my husband does these things and I don't? Why am I considered 'lazy', 'lucky', 'a lady of leisure' etc, etc..... If my situation was reversed to the 'norm', would my husband be considered all the things that I apparently am? I think not! And the most worrying and irritating thing that makes it worse is that I too feel 'guilty' about letting my husband do all these things that 'really are my jobs'! So it may appear 'physically' that equality is here in the home, but 'mentally' in society, I rather think we have a long way to go!