Having read the rightly closed thread and banned user this morning it got me thinking. Having spent most of my adult playing life in male only bands, I've never really been exposed to what happens when a member of a band ha an affair with another member, and how that can be made so much worse when the wife and mistress are both band members. Let alone children too. How does a band deal with that? Surely its massively destructive and would need to be eradicated with a sacking? Do Grimethorpe actually have it right with their male only membership ideal? This is a sensative issue but it's a real one and is apparently pretty common. I think it merits a discussion topic here. I'm not making reference to any bands in particular here. Please discuss and please also allow the discussion to develop naturally. Please avoid naming anyone personally.