'BOARD'. What to charge?

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Chat' started by Charmed, Sep 6, 2005.

  1. Charmed

    Charmed Active Member

    Can anyone give me a rough idea of the current 'board' costs that one would expect a 17year old, just starting full time work, to pay?

    My daughter has finally conceded that she should pay board and has 'quoted' a figure that I paid to my parents over twenty years ago!!

    Personally, the amount is not an issue, we don't need the money. However, I feel she needs to understand that now she is working, things will not always be handed to her on a plate.

    What do you think? Am I being too hard? :confused:
  2. heidnr

    heidnr New Member

    I think it depends on what her aims are. If she is perhaps saving towards a goal e.g. her own place or something like that then I think you can go easy on her, however, if she simply wants more beer tokens or lipstick vouchers then I think you have every right to up the price a little.
  3. michellegarbutt

    michellegarbutt Supporting Member

    No you are not being harsh.If she is working it is only fair she should pay her own way. If kids don't learn the value of money how are they going to cope when they have homes of their own? What I would do is work out how much your household bills are (including food, telephone, water, gas, electric, council tax ect) divide this by the number of people in the house. Then find out how much it is to rent a one room bedsit in your area. Add the two prices together then show it to your daughter as the actual price for keeping her. You can then compromise somewhere between this figure and what she wants to pay but good luck.

    If you really don't need the money and don't mind keeping her it might be a nice idea to put her board away in a high interest bank account, then when she leaves home you would have a nice lump sum to give her which she could use as a deposit for a house, money to pay for a wedding, money to furnish a house ect. My mum did this with half my board money and when I left home I was so grateful not to have to find the money for furniture ect.
  4. BigHorn

    BigHorn Active Member

    How about making her pay a realistic amount of money that she would have to pay if she was in rented acommodation and fending for herself.
    However instead of keeping the money, put some or all into a high interest account on her behalf to set her up with a future house deposit or nest egg for when she does eventually go.
    You could tell her what you were doing so she wouldn't begrudge paying it and it would certainly teach her the true value of money and how to spend responsibly.
  5. BigHorn

    BigHorn Active Member

    Whoops... Great minds think alike ^ must be faster at typing than me.
  6. meandmycornet

    meandmycornet Active Member

    I have just had to start paying rent to my parents as of this months (I'm not working full time though sort of 3/4 time :tongue: cus i'm doing my OU) they make my brother pay £220 a month but cos I only earn about £300 or so a month (depends what extra shifts I can get) mum and have reduced mine by the amount I help at home, If I do an hour of helping around the house I get a fiver knocked off so basically if I do an hour a day I get £35 a week off which works out at £140 a month its there's 4 weeks, and cos I work in sainsbury's I get a discount for mother's use of my discount card! So I pay about £50 a month, but if I do more hours that'll go up accordingly!
  7. Hornblower RN

    Hornblower RN Member

    How life has changed...I remember when I left school at 15 back in the 50s my first job was in coalmining. Out of the £2.15.0 ...£2.75 in today's money I had to give the lot to my Mam to receive 10 shillings (50P) pocket money. Even when I joined the RN at 16 I continued to allot her 5/- (25P) out of my £1.4.6d approx £1.25 a week. Times ARE difficult for youngsters but the same applies to people running a home. Perhaps a third towards the home a third into the bank and a third into her pocket might be a good start...the problem is the young live for today with very little thought given for what is around the corner. Just my twopennorthworth
  8. Crazysop

    Crazysop Member

    I still live with my parents, (groan groan) and my rent has not wavered from £30 a week since the day I started working (which seems like millenia ago). This figure stands regardless of my employment situation, for example as a supply teacher i have some affluent periods but can have long periods of unemployment, like summer holidays. The rent covers my room and water, electric and gas bills (except phone). I have to buy all own food, toiletries etc.
  9. flower girl

    flower girl Member

    Fornunately my mum has never made me pay board, however if she did, i would be willing to pay £50 a week, to help with bills, food etc.
  10. Bryan_sop

    Bryan_sop Active Member

    I always gave my parents 25% of my wages before I left for uni, even when I was only working part time. I didn't begrudge it at all. I started working part time as soon as I was 16. Unfortunately, this of course only works if you have a job. I now have a lazy Idle 18 year old brother without a job poncing off of my Mum :mad:
  11. becks164

    becks164 Member

    well ive come bk for the summer after my first yr at uni, and im only being charged 60 pounds a month whih is cheap compared to my friends who are in full time jobs and pay nearly 200 pounds!!!! whats all that about lol
  12. Will the Sec

    Will the Sec Active Member

    Absolutely not.

    It is a terrible shock to the system when someone gets a place of their own and gets taken by surpirse at all the things mum and dad paid for that they took for granted.

    I like the idea that Michelle and Big horn have muted - but I'd keep the fund a secret so the lesson about paying their way isn't lost. When you decide the fund is needed, the generosity of your act will see you and hubby loved and cared for, right the way into your dotage. :biggrin:
  13. sevenhelz

    sevenhelz Active Member

    :D my parents aren't making me pay board on my gap year... of course i barely spend any time here, and i buy my own food anyway :p but still, they know most of my job money will go into my savings account. some of us do think ahead ;)
  14. Just Crazy

    Just Crazy Member

    It was a while ago when i paid board about 10 years (my god thats long) lol

    And i used to pay £30 a week board and i used to but some food too. Im glad i paid that much cause then when i moved out it werent as much as a shock to how much things cost!
  15. Charmed

    Charmed Active Member

    Thanks for all your comments.

    However, after discussing this further with my daughter, she is adamant that if I charge her more than £100 a month she will leave home. (She is working full time and could easily afford double this, her opionion is I do not need the money, it would be different if I did!). I know what you will say - let her go and find out the hard way. What worries me is who will be picking up the pieces 6 months later when she returns home broke and in debt????
  16. michellegarbutt

    michellegarbutt Supporting Member

    Yes I would say let her go. Let her know you love her and will always be there for her but it is not your job to subsidise her lifestyle. If she is working it is only right that she should finance her own lifestyle. Have you tried showing her a breakdown of what she would have to pay if she left home? I'll bet there's a big difference between that cost and what you're offering to keep her for. It doesn't really matter if you need the money or not. What you earn is to keep you in your chosen lifestyle NOT someone who is working. Besides is she going to find somewher to live with all her bills thrown in for £25 a week. I don't think so.
  17. Hornblower RN

    Hornblower RN Member

    Withdraw all privileges first.......no cooking, cleaning, washing and ironing....let her do her own. Ensure there is no hot water for bathing or showering when she comes home from work.....sit her down and show her what you have to pay for
    Mortgage, insurance - buildings, contents and car...electricity, gas, water, council tax...TV licence. Perhaps a light might come on upstairs!!
  18. sparkling_quavers

    sparkling_quavers Active Member

    I would certainly so do a breakdown of how much it really costs. I went straight from 6th form to Uni and moved out of home. It was a major shock to the system when I had to pay for things myself! I never moved back in after I finished so never really paid board/rent to my parents. My little brother has just finished his a levels and got a job (not going to uni) and my mum is in the same situation with him. He isn't earning a good wage, only say 10 grand a year but he thinks he should only pay about £20 a week :rolleyes: He also claims he is going to move out (haha). I have told him to price it up - he wouldn't have any money left for socialising on 10k a year and would struggle to keep his car on the road.

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