I have found myself in quite a difficult situation, and need some input from people who will know!!! Basically, without mentioning names or delving in too deep, i'm not happy at my current band, I feel, may be wrongly, that there is a lack of commitment and that I am not being pushed as a player anymore. My current band have not done any contests in the 2 years I have been with the band, at first that didn't bother me, but now I'm looking for something to aim towards and to push myself. The band I have been asked to attend (and with reference to the poaching thread, I am not being poached, I sought them out off my own back) are at a similar level to my current band, but have fully attended rehearsals, commited players and are doing contests, which ticks the boxes. People may now be thinking, thats easy, not even worth posting, but.... currently the band have lost a few key players with them moving onto better things or going off to university etc... and to be quite honest I'm feeling guilty. We have a temporary conductor at the moment, and I feel more commitment to him than i do the band at the moment. I have made some good friends there and i know they wouldn't hold it against me, but even so, I don't want to be responsible for the band falling even further than they are already. I just don't know what to do or how to handle the situation!